Do You Know Five Fundamental Rules To Talk To Anyone

Do You Know Five Fundamental Rules To Talk To Anyone

I have always admired about those successful, victorious, and top men/women who seem to "have it all" do you?  I always see them chatting and talking very confidently and comfortably in meetings, pubic places, and social parties. Do you?

I have always thought why only these kind ones with the best job, the nicest life-partner, the great friends, rich and wealthy. Do you?

 

 Hey......just think of yourself! are they really smarter and knowledgeable than you? You know what I think. NO.. they are not smarter or educated than you or me. They also do not look better than us.

So then what is it??

Some of you say that they inherited it. Others say that they married it, or they just lucky. So I ask those fellows that just think again.

The most important and basic thing is that they have a skillful and efficient way of dealing with any human being.  Whether it is winning the promotion, landing the job, or charming a new partner. Other people are our optimal, and the greatest resources.

The internet has been seen as the ultimate means of bringing people altogether.  Where you can have ultimate fun with a constantly growing of  "friends" on Facebook. Whatever we need to keep in mind that spending hours and hours in the front of a mobile, laptop, or any screen is an inferior substitution for the broad palette of experience offered by face to face time with another person.

Today I' have come up with five fundamental techniques of "How to talk to anyone".

So let's jump right in.

1) The Flooding Smile.

The technique number one is the flooding smile.

You should not walk around with a constant smiley face. All great communicators know that their smile is the greatest weapon so they have designed it for maximum impact. When they smile, it has more impact on others, and other smiles with them.

Now you know this, so next time, whenever you greet someone, do not smile immediately. Instead, look at the person's face for a moment. Standstill, soak in their face. Then let the flow a warm, and big responsive smile on your face and let it flow into your eyes. In a fraction of a second, people get assured that your smile is honest and only for them.

 2) Sticky Eyes.

Do you know.... in the western culture, most of the people considered deep eye contact as a signal of confidence, trust, and knowledge? Yes, it is. Here the main trick behind it is that you have to pretend your eyes are connected to your conversation. You have to keep in mind that you should not break eye contact even after s/he has finished talking. Whenever you look the other way, do it so reluctantly and slowly. Suppose you have a problem while looking into the other person eyes, just look at their nose or eyebrows. Deep eye contact can be highly beneficial in the case of business, and especially between men and women.

3) Limit the Fidget

Expert communicators knowingly control every sign which may distract the listener from the conversation.

So, you have to know that whenever communicate with someone then you should not massage your arm whenever it tingles or rub your nose when it itches. You should never put your hands on your face. You should not loosen your collar when you feel hot, nor you blink your eye constantly.

As you know all these signs reduce your credibility. So, you should come up with discomfort, if you want to improve your credibility. So, now onwards let you your ear tingle, nose itch, and keep your hand away from your face. Still, if you do repeat these actions while communicating surly listeners may think that you are hiding something or lying even you are not.

 4) Parroting

You know in badminton how the shuttlecock is coming forth and going back over the net? Similarly in conversation, where the conversational shuttlecock goes forth and back.

First, you speak, then another person speaks, again you speak, and so on.. now what will you do when the shuttlecock falls in your court and now it is your move to speak, but your head goes blank? No need to be panic, just you have to repeat it "Parrot," the last few words said by another person, kindly in a questioning tone. Now, you throw the shuttlecock (conversation) right back in another person's court, and then all you need to listen.

For example:

S/he: Hey! I went to the market last night.

You: The market?

s/he: Yes, there was a great sale.

You: Great sale?

Just keep in mind that you should not overdo it, Because it can be extremely annoying if they do not have much to say. In case if they do have much to say then it is the fine technique to continue the conversation if you do not have much to say to our partner.

5) Wear a Whatzit

As you starting a conversation is very hard with someone, especially when you do not know the person. In such cases, Wharzit surely helps you out.

So what do you mean by Whatzit?

hmm... do not know? Ok... I will explain it to you. It states that when you carry or wear something unusual, strange, and unique thing. Such as a strange tie, unique t-shirt, interesting purse, etc. It can be any object or thing which attracts people attention. This is called Whatzit.  So, now whenever you go outside or a party then carry or wear something unique or strange to give others an excuse to approach you.

similarly, it goes for you. When you are interested to talk to someone new. Just follow the Whatzit law.....

Let's be smarter than Yesterday.

Here, I have explained to you five great fundamental techniques to upgrade your communication skill.
Let me know which one is your favorite in the comments down below.
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Reference:

Leil Lowndes (1999), “How to Talk”,